Here is the definition of the Shadow Self Archetype the Absolute Perfectionist:
“Always striving for the “perfect” solution in order to never find one. Self-improvement junkies, health club fanatics, food fadders and workshop addicts. People who strongly identify with the Absolute Perfectionist Persona never feel ready to commit to accomplish anything much “because it isn’t quite right for me.” and they go from one thing to another constantly. They feel forever dissatisfied with something if not “everything.”
Addiction: self-centered independence and perfection
Goal: seeks a better life
Issue: running from Self
Response: being true to the Inner Self
Virtue: autonomy and ambition
We all have to a certain degree have identified with being a perfectionist, some people more than others. The big problem about being a perfectionist is that you NEVER get to feel that you or anything else is GOOD ENOUGH, because there is always something that can be fixed, healed or improved.
Even though this might be true to some degree, because we are always learning, growing and expanding the perfectionist approach of “never good enough” creates an endless cycle of dissatisfaction. It’s very different to work on yourself from a state of self-love, acceptance and fulfillment than from a feeling of perpetual lack.
A very common example of the perfectionist can be seen in aspiring authors who have a phenomenal idea about a book but they constantly struggle to write the book or a single chapter for that matter because they are always thinking it’s “not good enough” or “perfect”, so they spend an entire lifetime trying to write a single book and most of them never do it. A while back I worked with a client to clear the perfectionist persona and soon after she was able to find her own voice and style of writing, finish her book and got it published.