Back in 2006 I was desperately trying to complete a relationship and move on, but despite numerous attempts there was a invisible force that kept me in that relationship. However the pain and sense of desperation created by this invisible force actually propelled me to find a permanent solution to this conundrum. I knew I had to heal something, I knew it was deep, but little did I know that it was guilt.
One of the main reasons I was doing a masters degree in psychology at the time was to try to understand the human psyche, my psyche and hopefully be able to heal my pain, end my suffering and find peace. It took very little time for me to realize that psychology would only uncover the tip of the iceberg. I intuitively knew there was a spiritual and energetic aspect to my life’s and relationships dilemmas. So I made it my mission to find a healing protocol that would provide me with permanent healing results.
My intent was so strong that it didn’t take me long to find such healing modality. One of my first intents was to clear the energetic blockages that were binding me to this karmic relationship. Now that I was accessing information from my Higher Self and going beyond my rational mind I was uncovering the Source of these invisible entanglements. One of the first things my Higher Self guided me to clear was unconscious guilt.
Guilt that I had inherited from my parents. Guilt that had been implanted by religion. Guilt that I had carried for multiple lifetimes like a backpack full of rocks. What surprised me was that in comparison to my own guilt, the guilt I had inherited was far more than my own. I was carrying a baggage of guilt that did not belong to me, I was walking my parents karma.
I remember that energy healing session like it was today. A huge vortex of energy began spiraling off from my heart chakra as tears rolled down my face. My body was slightly shaking and vibrating, once the clearing went quantum (cleared from the last levels of my auric field) I felt an indescribable state of lightness. After the session I finally was able to bring closure to the karmic relationship I had been trying to complete for almost a year. I felt different, I didn’t feel guilty about breaking up with her and most amazing of all I had become immune to her manipulation strategies. It was finally over!
Later on during my healing journey I learned about a shadow self persona called The Compassionate People Persona. Often people who have this persona will have unresolved guilt from previous lifetimes. Because they feel guilty they will try to help other people in an attempt to get rid of their own guilt. The problem is that this guilt makes them an easy prey for victims.
Victims point the finger of blame at everyone else except themselves, blaming everyone for why they are unhappy and for all their faults. Victims do not take responsibility for their own happiness, all they do is blame, blame, blame. They believe that the responsibility for their happiness is owed to them by other people.
Victims find compassionate people and then blame them because they are not happy. But even compassionate people will eventually turn into tyrants in order to get rid off the victim, resulting in very painful and dramatic breakups when it comes to romantic relationships.
Compassionate people are often emotionally addicted to the need to be needed. On the other hand victims are often emotionally addicted to pity. These polar opposites attract each other, compassionate people need to help, fix and heal someone in order to get rid of their guilt and victims need to blame someone because they are not happy/healed. Victims love to be with people who feel guilty because they are very easy to manipulate.
If you are in a relationship with someone (this includes family members) who is constantly blaming you for their unhappiness and you feel guilty that you can’t help them then it is time to permanently and completely clear the source of your guilt. The second step is to be truly compassionate. There is a big difference between TRUE COMPASSION and emotional neediness. Sometimes true compassion requires us to tell victims that we will not accept their guilt anymore and ask them to leave. This is compassion because it encourages the victim to become independent.